I have been trying to potty train NayNay for TWO YEARS. I told you how potty training sucked way back in June. Now here we are 8 months later and we are still trying to get him potty trained.
WTH?
I don’t know what’s going on. I’ve talked to his pediatrician. All I get from him is a bunch of nonsense about how he is holding on to this control that he has over it. Personally, I think it’s bull shit.
Nathan is LAZY.
Me and my mom have talked and thought and racked our brains about what is going on.
Maybe it hurts? I doubt that. He eats more fruit and veggies than any of us and he’s never had hard poop. It’s always big and soft and mushy. Sorry about the visual.
He knows how to go in the toilet. He does it sometimes…when he feels like it. He went months without going in his pants. He was potty trained.
Well, I’m done with it.
Done. DONE. DONE.
I put the boy in underwear yesterday. He did good, only one accident (but his accident happened when he got hurt and was laying on the ground crying…poor kid). It was forgivable. Of course, he did not poop all day yesterday. He’s holding it.
This morning, I put him in underwear. He protested and said he wanted a pull up.
I said “No. You are all done with pull ups and I know you can do this. You. Can. Do. This.”
*sigh*
I hope he can do this.
Am I doing the right thing? Forcing the issue? I think I have been plenty patient. Patient for 2 years already. I know I shouldn’t compare him to his brother, but Gabe’s been in underwear for over 2 years! He can do this. Right? RIGHT?
Please tell me I’m right.
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He will come around. Just don’t back down now that you have taken his crutch – the pullups – away.
I just started the same process with my daughter this morning as well. I am trying to hold my ground as you are. I hope this will pass soon. Wish you luck. If you have any good ideas please pass them my way.
If he poops in the underwear, make him wash it out in the toliet.
The cold water and having the nasty smell in his nose and the poop
on his hands, may get him to think twice about not using the toliet.
Tell him something like this, “Well, if you use the toliet when you have to poop then you’ll never have to wash your poopy underwear out in this cold toliet water again. Your nose won’t have to be so close
to the stinky smell. Big boys go poop in the toliet so they don’t
have to wash their underwear out in the toliet.
You may think this is mean, but it worked for my sister. She’d tried potty training for about two years and had problems with the poop aspect too with her son. One day she’d had it, and did this. Guess
what it potty trained him for good that very day and there was only
one accident and it wasn’t his fault, they were just somewhere on an outing where there wasn’t a toliet around in time.
ooohh, that sounds terrible! LOL! I don’t know if I could do that. I guess desperate times call for desperate measures, huh?
I agree with Lauralee & I know it sounds mean but you have to take control. Another idea is to tell him if he poops in his big boy underwear you will not clean him up because kids his age don’t poop in their underwear. Thats what I did with the oldest and it worked like a charm and he was going on 5 yrs old. He id the same thing yours is doing now. My youngest was a breeze but the oldest was pure hell. BTW I didn’t make him have poopy underwear on for hrs or anything like that just like 20 or 30 minutes to make it uncomfortable. It took a few times but it worked and I didn’t feel bad either.
I’ve tried making him clean it up but it aggravates me like nothing else to watch him to a bad job cleaning up. LOL I have control issues.
Also, I’ve left him in his drawers but he does not care. He would rather sit in crap all day long then tell us he pooped. He KNOWS he’s being naughty. So frustrating.
Throw the pull ups away and never buy another one–don’t let him be lazy and use those. And don’t let him know that you are frustrated when he has an accident–downplay it and only get emotional when he uses the potty the like he should–he’ll realize, hopefully, that he gets more attention when he uses the potty than when he uses his pants, because, let’s face it–kids don’t care if the attention is good (you praising him for using the potty) or bad(you acting frustrated because he didn’t use the potty.) And bribe the heck out of him if you have to–we used small candies like Smarties so we could give our daughter two or three at a time without sending her into sugar overload, and stickers. Cheap thrills for kids. You should probably reward your other twin too when he goes like he should, even though he’s trained. Maybe Nathan will think, “Hey! Bobo’s getting treats and attention–I want to get that too!” I’ve always heard most boys take longer to fully potty train than girls, for some reason. I wish you good luck with whatever you decide to do!
I’m going thru the same thing with my 4 year old daughter! She will go pee on the potty but not poo. She wears pull-ups at night so I still have them in her closet. She is SO set on not going poo in the potty that she will actually get a pull-up, put it on, go poo then yell “Mommy, I went poo-poo! Change me!” She’s smart enough to put on a freakin pull-up to go poo, but won’t go on the big toilet! Oh, and she ALWAYS wants to look at it! I told her if she goes in the potty like a big girl, she can look at it all she wants! lol My 12 year old son didn’t have these issues, but then again, I was working full time and he was in daycare and then pre-school so that helped a lot with the potty training. I’m scared to death she won’t be ready for kindergarten this fall, but I figure she will just hold it until she comes home (thank God it’s only 3 hours long!) I think you’re doing the right thing and I’m going to take a lesson from you – I’m gonna hide her pull-ups that I use for night time so she can’t put them on when she wants to poop during the day. I know if she goes in her panties she won’t sit in it all day because she can’t stand to have it in her pull-up for more than 5 minutes! Good luck!!
OMGosh! I would lose it if Nay went and put on the pull up to poop!! LOL! Little turkeys. that’s what I don’t get, they KNOW what’s happening and what to do, they just won’t do it.
Someone suggested to me today on Twitter that maybe it hurt to go and to maybe try a light laxative. I might ask my ped about that.
She’s DEFINITELY not constipated because it’s ALWAYS mushy (sorry!). For some reason she is afraid to go on the potty. But I think if she HAS to go in her panties, she will choose the toilet over her pants. I’m hiding the pull-ups as we speak! lol